The start doesn’t matter…it’s the end that really matters.
Old Man #1 had a vision. A dream. A plan. He worked hard and got some money together and bought the old Sleeman mansion.
Originally owned by John Sleeman (the brewery guy), it’s a gorgeous limestone castle right by the main highway in Guelph, and directly across my the church I grew up in. Old Man #1 had no intentions of turning the beautiful churchside castle into a house or a hotel. Rather, he turned it into Guelph’s first and finest upscale strip joint.
Years later, Old Man #1 was in a car accident while vacationing in Florida. He was gripped with the reality that life was short and that he’d been devoting his life to sin. He quit the business…and started attending the church directly across the road from his landmark success.
For decades, he prayed that it would get shut down. In his lifetime, and to this day, it remains Guelph’s most popular destination for sexual sin of all kinds (including, recently, trafficking). The old man never got over the guilt he felt for his earlier choices. He worked and campaigned hard to get it shut down. He made his life all about loving people, winning some to Christ, and seeing the Kingdom of God grow because of his loving servanthood. Old Man #1 had a bad start, but an excellent finish.

(not actual grumpy old man!)
Old Man #2 grew up in church. In fact, when I knew him, he’d been a member of that (same strip-joint-adjacent) church for many decades. He vehemently opposed the people who visited the strip joint, and very unlovingly disapproved of their actions. Not that it was a bad thing, just that he didn’t show much love in going about it.
Like most of us, he’d never been wrong a day in his life. He was a sour, codgy old curmudgeon. One day my friend John and I walked from school to church for a young gathering followed by a baptism. He’d never met us before, but thought it necessary to yell at us for wearing our hats “in the house of the Lord.” (we were three feet into the foyer). It broke our hearts. Here’s a dude with wealth and knowledge and experience and family and a great church…but with no love in his heart. He died a bitter old man. Maybe in his younger days he was on fire for the things of God, but the end was self-evident…good start, bad finish.
How are you going to make sure that you finish well?
June 30th, 2010 at 3:24 am
Interesting! What makes us tune in when we hear/read words like nude or sex?
While I was reading this I was thinking what made me tune in growing up especially was that I was curious and wanted to educate myself on the topic of sex. Growing up in a Christian home and school, sex was taboo and not talked about, so I turned to gleaning information off friends or media to educate myself instead.
So about whether we blame ourselves or society… I definitely think parents and teachers have a responsibility to properly educate young people on sex. What that means for me is to break the cycle and educate my kids and talk with them about sex so they don't have to rely on learning (or be misguided, rather) from the media.
July 3rd, 2010 at 3:14 am
One of your best James, thanks for this! -Michelle